Helping Others

There's no such thing as a perfect person in this world.
Everyone must be agree to the statement above.
It's a fact that no matter how great, smart, rich, and good a human is, there must be a time when we need other people's help.
At this time I want to talk about the aspect of helping other people.

Nowadays, to be honest I rarely see people who want to help other person sincerely.
I often see most of people want to help only when the problem is related to them or because of the hidden things they want.
Lot of people thought that other people's problem is not something they have to think or take a part at all.
Well it maybe sounds normal since this life has really provides so much problems to ourself, so maybe we don't have a time to take a part at other people's problem.
But some stories make my own perspective about this.
I have some stories about this aspect, although these stories happended in the past.

It was at my collegue time at about 3 years ago.
I was given an individual project by my lecturer at my university.
Honestly that lesson was a difficult subject at that term, and furthermore I'm not a person who has a smart brain so it really getting more difficult to finish the task.
I was searching at internet about that subject, but still I could not make a big difference since I'm not clever enough maybe.
I just getting frustation and desperate because of the deadline was getting closer.
I asked for a help to many persons including my classmates and my senior.
It didn't get better so much, since my classmates were also very busy with their project too, and also my seniors only just answered a little of my question.
I was just getting confused and I was searching other person again.
I looked up at my contact and I found one of my highscholl friend that took the same majors with me but he studied at different university.

Let me tell my relation and background with this friend first.
We're highschool best friend.
I played and spent a lot of time with him.
Honestly at the highschool it can be said that I'm far smarter than him.
I always teached him at many subjects and maybe it can said that I has a better score than him at all the subject at the school.
However still, I try to help him since he's one of my close friend eventhough at that time it looked like that there's nothing that I can ask for his help.

Backagain at my story of the task.
I try to asked for the help from my friend because I wasn't longer know who I could ask for help.
How was the result ?
Yeah, he wanted to help me a lot.
He asked me the problem very detail and he did some of the parts of my task.
It really made situation became very better than before.
He helped me to do my task for many hours at that night and he did it like it was his own project.
My project became had a significant progress and I said big thankyou for him and then he replied "Okayy, tommorow just chat me again if there's other problem appears".

At the next 2 days I chatted him again for his help because the deadline is just about tommorow and sadly many problems appeared again and I couldn't fix it.
My friend did it exactly the same as before, he helped me a lot.
Even at that time, it took longer than before.
We did my project for lot of hours even until the midnight.
My task finally finished at that late of night and I was really glad.
I said this to my friend "Hey, I'm really really thank you to you because I already don't know who I can ask for help, I'm sorry to make you help me even until this late of night"
What just he replied ? It really made touchful.
He replied "Take it easy vin, I used to always asked for your help when we were in the highschool and now it's my turn to help you. Just chat me anytime when you have this problem again, I will help you as much as I can".
At that moment I just speechless for a time.
Before, I never imagined that I will ask for the help from the person that used to asked for my help.
This wheel of the life really can spin !
I was really grateful because the help that I did in the past could give me such this kind of thing.

However, I think it's not fair if at this aspect I just only talk about the position when we are the one who ask for help.
I have some story when I was in the position that I was being asked for the help.
At my collegue time I was ever being asked by some of my friends and my junior to taught them at some subject.
At first, everything sounds normal when I could try to help as much as I could.
But I just felt different when I was in a difficult situation too.
I was ever being asked to taught my junior for the exam despite of I had an exam to the next day.
I had sacrifice my plan to studied earlier 2 days before the exam to taught my junior, but I was still asked to taught at the day before the exam day.
I admit it that it annoyed me a little, If I spend this day to taught, how about my exam tommorow ? I could not study if I had to taught them.
Also I ever asked by my classmate to help or teach them a lesson.
I ever felt strange about it, at that time I was also a bad situation since my own task haven't finished and the subject that they asked to me was a difficult subject.
Because I knew that those people who asked my help have some close friend that far clever than me, sometimes I asked why it always me that always must help in spite of there were many people who had better situation and who has a bigger chance to help?

Yes, honestly I ever felt that I was a little bit confused when I was being asked for the help at the time when I had a bad situation.
So what is the conclusion ?
People must be have so many different opinions.
From the stories above and all other experiences I have, I have my own opinion and it will remain at my perspective.
It's true that we can not help other people anytime and anywhere since we must be have our problems in our life.
But when you have a chance to help others, we have to help as much as we can.
Even at some cases when we help other people and there's no rewards we got, it still a right things.
What's wrong with that ?
Helping other people is not such a bad thing right ?
We have to help when the situation is possible, because in my opinion if we have a big chance to help but we don't want to do it, it means the same that we're the cause of the problem.
Deep but true I think.

There's more things about this aspect.
First, always appreciate about other people's kindness.
There are some cases that the people who asked for help didn't have any respect.
They only focus with the result, when other people have given their best effort but still don't give so much difference, the people who asked for a help sometimes went fastly without even say thank you.
They don't think about the intention and the effort that other people has given, maybe it can be one of the reason many people become lazy to help.
So I think we have still to respect and appreciate other people's intention to help despite of the result.

Also there are so many ways to help other people.
So many kind of things that you never think that it can be considered as a help.
For some of my friends that ever have a time to sharing and have a long chat/talk with me maybe realize at the end of the conversation I often said "Thank you for the long conversation that we done".
It sounds like not so much thing maybe, but for me who has a lot of such a situation, I really mean it.
I really thankful to that and I think that's a kind of helping me.
I really say thankyou with a big mean not only as a formality.
There are many kinds of ways of helping other people that maybe we don't realize.
For us who are being asked for a help, maybe we think the problem or a hand that we give is just a small thing and doesn't make a great effect, but maybe for the one who ask for a help it can be means so much.

Well, this post become a very long stories.
Since I'm quite interested at this aspect.
I'm quite thankful because at the moment , I still see some of people that intend to help other people without expecting any rewards.
Also some people who always appreciate other people's intention and effort to help despite of the end of the result.
Happy that I can see a humanity in my surround.
I really respect and appreciate all those kind of people and I think it will keep remain until for such a long timeeeeeeee..~

Regards